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The Peace Rug helps children to handle bullying.
Bullying is a national problem.
Let's define it. Bullying happens whenever someone's body, property or feelings are hurt or threatened and the other person won't stop what they are doing when asked. It may be physical, verbal, emotional, or sexual. Boys and girls can both be bullies - gender is not the issue. Sometimes it's one on one bullying - sometimes it's in a gang. But it's all about trying to have power over someone else. And no one likes to feel intimidated or powerless!
It is estimated that
more than 160,000 children stay home from school
everyday
because they are afraid of being bullied.
Bullying behavior is learned - from someone else. Research shows that many children who were once victims of bullying become bullies themselves. They begin to copy bullying behaviors, often going to extreme measures such as fighting and even shooting.
This negative behavior has to stop. Children cannot learn when they have a conflict with a classmate or feel threatened by a bully in school. And if bullying behavior isn't curtailed, children have even been so depressed they have committed suicide.
The Peace Rug helps children to handle bullying.
By using the special Peace Rug dialogue, a victim is on equal footing with the bully and is able to "find their voice" to speak up. This greatly empowers more passive children who tend to give in when they shouldn't. The dialogue also reveals to bullies how their behavior is hurting another person. Most of the time, this revelation leads to compassion and bullying behavior usually stops.
As an example, a smaller boy comes out of the restroom and is accosted by a larger one. He is threatened.. He knows he could get hurt but says, "I would like to invite you to come to The Peace Rug with me so that we can work it out." Since the entire school has learned how to use The Peace Rug, they agree to go and the problems among them are solved. They may not be good friends but they respect each other now. And that is better than living in fear of being bullied again and again!
Teasing is a huge problem in schools and elsewhere. None of us one wants to feel bad about ourselves but when unkind remarks said in a joking fashion occur, we have little defense.
What can one say when "I was just teasing" is heard? Teasing can happen about anything - someone's weight or height, the color of someone's hair, someone's race, difference in clothes, religion. Teasing often escalates into bullying, but The Peace Rug empowers the child who is teased to solve the conflict.
"I'd rather be dead than red!" say two little girls while teasing the red-headed boy with freckles. Knowing he can solve his problem, he says, "Would you both go to The Peace Rug with me?"
The girls agree; they go through the dialogue and minutes later, they are in smiles and back in their seats. The girls now recognize that their teasing is hurtful and have promised not to do it again. The red-headed boy is proud of himself for handling the situation.
A girl accidentally drops her books in the hall and everyone around her laughs. She invites them all
to go to The Peace Rug with her so that the teasing will stop.
Teasing is unkind and being able to stop it greatly empowers a child.
What is a conflict?
Anything someone does that makes you feel uncomfortable, hurt, angry, and other negative emotions can be labeled a conflict. Sometimes it is physical. For our purposes, we identify both non-physical and physical behavior such as disrespect, eye-rolling, name-calling, taunting, hitting, shoving, teasing, bullying, and more as "conflicts."
How does one resolve it?
The purpose of The Peace Rug is to give children a specially designated safe place to work through bad feelings with the other child when a conflict occurs. A specific dialogue has been created so that both children know what to say and how to say it so that feelings are settled, rather having a situation escalate. Children can learn this new way - The Peace Rug way - to resolve conflicts easily, quickly, respectfully, and peacefully.
Examples:
A child's property has been taken: A young boy takes another's pencil - again! Usually there are outbursts and blaming, "He took my pencil!" Now he invites the other child to go to The Peace Rug. They go through the dialogue at the suggestion of the teacher; they work through the problem; and a couple of minutes later, they are in their seats back at work. The teacher has now been able to continue teaching and the whole class has not been disrupted by the conflict between these two
Someone's feelings are hurt: Two girls get into an argument about a boy they both like. One shoves the other, and the other retaliates by calling her names. They look at each other and say, "Let's go to The Peace Rug!" They do and are able to work through their differences, deciding that a boy is not worth their friendship and that it is not okay for them to disrespect each other in any way. And it's never okay to get physical! Use The Peace Rug dialogue instead!
Used daily, The Peace Rug changes a child's behavior, character, and words.
No more words - no more books - no more intellectual discussions on how to teach children to be good people and have good character. Now there is an effective curriculum that is a proven success and is research based. It is called The Peace Rug.
Used daily, The Peace Rug changes a child's behavior from the inside out.
To instill quality character in children, something has to be available everyday in every classroom. Children of all ages need something to use immediately to reinforce positive behavior and good character qualities. That "something" is The Peace Rug where good character is built through children's positive experiences.
Various programs may be effective for the short term, but essentially, these programs fail over the long-term because behavior does not permanently change. With The Peace Rug, the difference is a learned process that can alter behavior.
The Peace Rug is the ideal curriculum to teach character education.
Some character traits are given below, along with the impact of teaching The Peace Rug curriculum:
Respect - Invite someone to go to the Peace Rug rather than arguing or fighting and you choose to show respect for yourself and for the other person. You treat someone the way you want to be treated.
Responsibility - Take responsibility to try to solve problems on your own in a respectful and peaceful way. The Peace Rug allows both persons to be accountable for choices they have made and for what they plan to do in the future.
Perseverance - Keep trying to solve the problem in a respectful way when things are difficult and that is persevering - even if someone turns you down to go to The Peace Rug.
Caring - Feel more compassionate towards the other person. The Peace Rug teaches children to be more caring towards one another and to be more forgiving.
Self-discipline - If you've ever been invited to The Peace Rug because of something you've done to someone else, it makes you think about doing it again - to that person or anyone else!
Citizenship - By seeking to have peace with your classmates, teachers, and others in your life, you are being a good citizen.
Honesty - Be honest in one's feelings when coming to The Peace Rug. It takes a tremendous amount of courage to invite someone to The Peace Rug because you will be talking about feelings and sometimes that's very tough, but continue until you can reach a peaceful solution. You will be glad you did!
Fairness - Since each person has a turn on The Peace Rug, there is a sense of fairness - a sense of equality - that no one is better than anyone else - even bullies!
Character education can be taught easily and effectively with The Peace Rug.
Ready to Quit?
Discouraged?
Can't manage your classroom?
Tired of constant conflicts that interrupt and disrupt your class?
Don't give up hope until you've tried The Peace Rug®!
This research-based and proven effective curriculum covers conflict resolution, bullying prevention, anger management, communication, and character education, and cultural diversity and is designed to repattern undesirable behaviors, particularly if used everyday in every classroom.
True Education Reform begins when teachers can teach and children can listen. The Peace Rug brings those possibilities to the classroom as no other curriculum can do.
The end result is better classroom management of your students which means easier teaching. The Peace Rug is simple and easy to use - 15 minutes to teach and only 2-3 minutes for children to work through their issues - on their own! No books to read, tapes to watch or writing required by children! And it's a one time purchase.
The Peace Rug is not a place of punishment nor is it a time-out area. One child invites another to go to The Peace Rug when there is a problem to be solved. Or a teacher might suggest that two or more children go to The Peace Rug to work out their situation. After being used for a week or two, children start asking to go to The Peace Rug when they have a conflict with one of their classmates. The teacher continues to teach.
Children "get" The Peace Rug - they want to be better friends - want better relationships -want to feel okay with each other. The Peace Rug brings respect back to the classroom and provides a level playing field for the victim and the bully.
Special Note to School Administrators: We know you are concerned about teachers leaving the profession. You are probably discouraged, too. The Peace Rug offers hope to your teaching staff. One is needed in every classroom and counseling office. Better classroom management means less discouragement for all. With conflicts resolved quickly, children can learn better. The school climate becomes one of peace and order with zero tolerance for violence.
The Peace Rug could make a difference in your home today!
Kids not fighting?
You've got to be kidding!!
Family life is tough these days. Sometimes it seems as though peace and harmony are impossible. Stress, frustrations, irritations, hurt feelings, inability to communicate, and other issues come up and we often get angry instead of trying to find a way to work things out.
When children are irritable and teasing and fighting with their siblings, it's sometimes hard to find a peaceful solution. We want simple answers that don't take a lot of time to learn.
The Peace Rug could make a difference in your home today!
We have a new and unique solution for many problems within families - it's called The Peace Rug and it works! The Peace Rug is a proven success to resolve conflicts and can truly make a peaceful difference in the atmosphere in your home.
It's simple - 15 minutes to teach how to use The Peace Rug to your children. Once they have practiced using it for a few weeks, they can then manage their problems with each other and the
ongoing stress of "refereeing" is over.
The Peace Rug® - it's easy to teach... easy to learn...easy to use!
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